<div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">나 또한 여러분과 같이 책을 통해 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">연애에 대한 통찰</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">을 얻고 싶어 했다. 나는 책에서 달달한 연애의 감정을 느끼는 것보다, 정작 연애책으로 내가 어떻게 하면 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">"제대로 된 연애를 할 수 있을까"</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">에 대한 큰 고민으로 책들을 집어 들었다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">당신은 화성에서 온 남자, 금성에서 온 여자를 읽었을 것이다. 그러면서 남성과 여성이 어떤 사람들이고 그들을 어떤식으로 대우해야 하는지에 대한 생각들을 배웠을 것이다. 조금 더 생각을 발전하기 위해 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'진화심리학'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">과 같은 책들을 읽어보았을 것이다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">남자와 여자라는 인간 이전에, 동물로써 파악함으로서 왜 남자는 그런 행동을 할 수 밖에 없는지, 그리고 여자는 그런 행동을 할 수 밖에 없는지에 대해서 이해하게 되었을 것이다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-image se-l-default" style="margin:20px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content se-component-content-normal" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-image se-l-default se-section-align-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:367px;"> <div class="se-module se-module-image" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <a target="_blank" href="https://blog.naver.com/PostView.nhn?blogId=yerpgigigigi&logNo=222084557115&categoryNo=24&parentCategoryNo=&from=thumbnailList#" class="se-module-image-link __se_image_link __se_link" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;" target="_blank"><img src="" alt="" class="se-image-resource" style="border:0px;margin:0px;padding:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:top;width:367px;"></a> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:20px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">더 나아간다면 The game과 같은 픽업아티스트의 연애 책을 읽었을 것이다. 남녀의 역학구조에 대한 이해를 바탕으로 'A-C-S구조'와 같은 논리적인 알고리즘에 대해 알게되었을 것이다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">아마 이쯤 되면, 당신 머리속에는 많은 지침들이 있을 것이며 스스로 어떻게 해야 되는지에 대한 큰 틀에서의 구상은 끝났을 것이다.</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 내 주변에는 이런 사람들이 정말 많았다. 나 조차, 이성에 대한 강한 결핍을 가지고 있었기 때문에 읽을 수 있는 책은 모두 다 읽었지만 책을 읽는 것이랑 내 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'실제 현실'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">이랑은 전혀 상관이 없었다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">책에 대해서 이론에 대해서 빠삭한 사람들은 주변에 널리고 널렸지만 그 사람의 궁극적인 연애에 있어서 대대적인 변화가 일어난 사람은 드물었다. </span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-quotation se-l-quotation_underline" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-quotation se-l-quotation_underline" style="margin:0px auto;padding:10px 0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <blockquote class="se-quotation-container" style="margin:auto;padding:35px 0px 20px;border-width:0px 0px 1px;border-bottom-style:solid;border-bottom-color:#9b9b9b;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text se-quote" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:19px;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanummyeongjo', serif;vertical-align:baseline;">이해와 당신의 상태는 전혀 다르다.</span> </p> </div> </blockquote> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-quotation se-l-default" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-quotation se-l-default" style="margin:0px auto;padding:10px 0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <blockquote class="se-quotation-container" style="margin:auto;padding:31px 0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text se-quote" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:italic;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:19px;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanummyeongjo', serif;vertical-align:baseline;">너, 자신이 되어라.</span> </p> </div> </blockquote> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">우리는 평소에 이런 말을 많이 듣는다. 하지만, 본인 스스로의 기본 상태가 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'매력적이지 못한 상태'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">라면 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">너 자신이 된다</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">는 것은, 계속 매력적이지 못한 상태로 이성에게 다가가라는 말이 된다. 연애 책을 많이 읽는 사람들은 타인에 대한 이해와 남녀의 기본적인 역학구조에 대해서는 정확히 이해했지만 본인 스스로의 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'현 상태'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">에 대해서는 크게 신경쓰지 않았다. 아니, </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">신경을 쓰지 않은 게 아니라 자기 자신을 제대로 볼 줄 몰랐다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">당신 앞에 이성은 당신의 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'말 한마디'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">에 홀랑 넘어가는 바보가 아니다. 당신이라는 전체적인 느낌, 그 자체에서 매력을 느끼는 것이지 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">어떠한 멘트나 당신의 무엇 '하나'를 통해 전체적인 결과가 달라지는 경우는 거의 없다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">그리고 상대방이 괜찮을 이성일수록, 사회적으로 인기가 많은 이성일수록 더욱 이러한 성향을 가지게 된다. 그런데도 대부분의 남자들은</span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;"> '멘트외우기'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">에 충실한다. 답답할 노릇이다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">본인은 본인 스스로의 모습을 어느정도까지 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'객관적으로'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 체크가 가능한가?</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-quotation se-l-quotation_line" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-quotation se-l-quotation_line" style="margin:0px auto;padding:10px 0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <blockquote class="se-quotation-container" style="margin:auto;padding:0px 20px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text se-quote" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:19px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">괜찮은 사람이 된다는 것. 종합적인 예술</span> </p> </div> </blockquote> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-image se-l-default" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content se-component-content-normal" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-image se-l-default se-section-align-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:367px;"> <div class="se-module se-module-image" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <a target="_blank" href="https://blog.naver.com/PostView.nhn?blogId=yerpgigigigi&logNo=222084557115&categoryNo=24&parentCategoryNo=&from=thumbnailList#" class="se-module-image-link __se_image_link __se_link" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;" target="_blank"><img src="" alt="" class="se-image-resource" style="border:0px;margin:0px;padding:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:top;width:367px;"></a> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:20px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">당신은 스스로를 위해 어떻게 까지 꾸며보았나? 지금 머리는 자신을 위해 잘 맞는 머리인가? 눈썹은, 피부상태는. 만약 좋지 않다면 눈썹은 다듬어 보았는가? 비비크림이라도 발라보았는가? 키가 작다면 깔창은 깔아보았는가? 옷은 당신이 생각하기에 깔끔한 것인가? 아니면 남들이 보기에도 깔끔한 것인가? 스스로가 외적 상태가 내가 꾸밀 수 있는 최선이라고 스스로 말할 수 있는가?</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">대부분의 남자들은 '자존심'이 강하다.</span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 내가 이정도까지 해야되냐고 이야기한다. 그런데 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><strike style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:inherit;">입으론 외롭다고 이야기 한다.</strike></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 본인 스스로 매력적인 모습으로 연출도 하지 않으면서 상대방은 자기를 좋아하길 바란다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">나는 이런 것을 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'불공정 거래'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">라고 생각한다.</span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 본인 스스로가 대충 나갈꺼면, 상대방도 본인에 대해서 대충 생각할 권리가 있다. 그리고 그것에 기분나쁘면 안된다. 본인도 상대방을 같은 방식으로 바라보지 않는가?</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><u style="background-color:inherit;">내 말이 상당히 쓰다는 것을 나도 알고 있다. </u></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">하지만 내가 변할 수 있었던 것은 연애책이 아니라 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'현실에서의 깨짐'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 덕분이었다. 머리 스타일을 수없이 망해봤고 안 좋은 피부를 위해 비비크림을 떡칠하다 달걀귀신이 된적도 있었다. 두려웠지만 안경은 벗고 라식수술을 하게 되었고 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">내 스스로 외모 최적화를 위해 수없이 노력했다.</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 그 결과, 확실히 나를 바라보는 이성, 그리고 주변의 시선은 달라졌다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">과정은 힘들었지만 결과는 달콤했다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">하나 더, 이야기 하고 싶다. 당신의 내면과 경험이다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-quotation se-l-quotation_line" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-quotation se-l-quotation_line" style="margin:0px auto;padding:10px 0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <blockquote class="se-quotation-container" style="margin:auto;padding:0px 20px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text se-quote" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:19px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">무엇을 위해 사시나요?</span> </p> </div> </blockquote> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">상식적인 선에서 생각해보자. </span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><u style="background-color:inherit;">일 - 집 - 일 - 집 - 휴식</u></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">을 취하는 사람과 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><u style="background-color:inherit;">일 - 집- 헬스장 - 일 - 집 - 독서 - 일 - 집 - 취미 생활</u></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">을 하는 사람 중 누구의 삶이 더 매력적인가? 아마, 후자일 것이다. 내가 생각하는 이성과의 만남 과정은 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">각자의 세계관끼리 만나서 우세한 세계관이 승리하는 구조</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">라고 생각한다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">연애책에서는 이러한 것들을 알려주지 않는다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-image se-l-default" style="margin:20px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content se-component-content-normal" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-image se-l-default se-section-align-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:550px;"> <div class="se-module se-module-image" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <a target="_blank" href="https://blog.naver.com/PostView.nhn?blogId=yerpgigigigi&logNo=222084557115&categoryNo=24&parentCategoryNo=&from=thumbnailList#" class="se-module-image-link __se_image_link __se_link" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;" target="_blank"><img src="" alt="" class="se-image-resource" style="border:0px;margin:0px;padding:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:top;width:550px;"></a> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:20px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">무슨 말이고 하냐면, 나의 라이프스타일과 생각들, 성향들 , 가치관들등에서 상대방보다 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'우위'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">를 보여줄 수 있다면 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">상대방은 당신을 매력적으로 느낄 수 밖에 없다.</span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> 그럴려면 당신은 정말 그렇게 사는 연습을 해야 한다. 지루하고 단조로운 당신의 삶을 부셔야 한다. 귀찮지만 당신에 삶을 조금 더 다채롭게 만들어 나아가야 한다. 셀럽의 삶을 살라는 것이 아니다. 당신의 삶을 파괴하지 않으면 당신의 생각또한 지금 그 상태로 머물 것이고 과거의 연애처럼 앞으로도 반복될 것이다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">당신은 당신의 '경험' 그 자체를 증식시키는 데 노력해야 한다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">더불어, 당신의 내면이 안정적이지 못하면 그것은 어떻게든 상대방에게 드러나게 되어 있다. 당신은 스스로를 그리고 상대방을 속일 수 있다고 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">생각하지만 결정적인 순간에 당신의 불안한 내면이 드러나게 된다. </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">그리고 상대방은 그것을 읽는 데 '도사'라고 생각하면 된다. 그렇기에 당신의 라이프 사이클과 더불어 당신의 내면을 향상시키는 작업들을 지속해야 한다. 매일 부정적인 생각을 하는 사람이 긍정적인 척 연기해봤자 어차피 탄로나기 마련이다. 긍정적인 척이 아니라 긍정적인 사람이 되어야한다. </span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">한가지 더 보태자면 당신의 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'비언어' </span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">역시 스스로 체크해야 한다. 당신은 타인의 눈을 정확히 응시 할 수 있는가? 당신의 말속도는. 당황스러운 상황이 왔을 때 당신의 반응은 어떠한가? 당신의 허리는 굽어있지 않은가? </span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">이 모든 것을 다 하려니 쓰러지겠다고? 그래서 이 책이 씌어졌으니 걱정하지 마라. 하나씩 그 로드맵을 알려주겠다.</span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-quotation se-l-quotation_line" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-quotation se-l-quotation_line" style="margin:0px auto;padding:10px 0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <blockquote class="se-quotation-container" style="margin:auto;padding:0px 20px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text se-quote" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:19px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">이성을 위한 것일까? </span> </p> </div> </blockquote> </div> </div> </div> <div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" style="margin:40px 0px 0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-size:medium;line-height:inherit;font-family:'se-nanumgothic', sans-serif;vertical-align:baseline;color:#666666;background-color:#ffffff;"> <div class="se-component-content" style="margin:0px auto;padding:0px 40px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;max-width:100%;"> <div class="se-section se-section-text se-l-default" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <div class="se-module se-module-text" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">'이성'을 만나기 위해 이정도까지 해야 한다고? 에이 그럴빠엔 안만나지 라고 충분히 이이기 할 수 있다. 그런데, 내가 적은 글을 다시 읽어봐라. 이건 정확히 이성을 만나기 위해서가 아니라 제대로 된 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'당신의 삶'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">을 위해서 중요한 내용이다. </span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">현실이 만족스럽지 않은 당신도 사실은 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">"스스로가 상대방에게 매력적으로 보이길 원하며, 스스로에게 자신감이 있고 당당해지길 원하며, 자신이 사는 삶을 윤택하게 만드는 것을 원할 것이다"</span></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;"></span></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">맞다. 나는 이성에 대한 이야기가 아니라, 당신에 대해 이야기 하고 있다. 당신은 매력적인 사람이 될 자격이 있고, 더 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">늦기전에 필히 그렇게 되어야 한다. </span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"></span> </p> <p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align-" style="padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:0px;line-height:1.8;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;white-space:pre-wrap;"> <span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">내 경험상, 그리고 내 주변의 경험상 인생에서 이성이 차지하는 비율이 50%이상 넘어가게 되면 그것은 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-color:#ffef34;">역설적으로 삶의 밸런스가 붕괴된 상태를 의미</span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">한다. 나 또한 마찬가지고 여러분 역시 절대 그렇게 되지 않기를 바란다. 자신의 삶을 온전히 살면, 자신이 원하는 대로 살면 사실 </span><span class="se-fs- se-ff-" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-weight:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"><span style="font-weight:700;background-color:inherit;font-family:inherit;">'이성'</span></span><span class="se-fs- se-ff- se-weight-unset" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font-style:inherit;font-variant:inherit;font-size:15px;line-height:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;">은 따라온다. 그것 자체가 매력적이기 때문이다. 당신의 경험과 가치관 더 나아가서 세계관 자체가 매력적이기 때문이다.</span> </p> <div class="autosourcing-stub-extra" style="margin:0px;padding:0px;border:0px;font:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;"> <p 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