<p class="p1">우연히<span class="s1"> ㅈ</span>일보의<span class="s1"> </span>기사를<span class="s1"> </span>접하게되었다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>여자는<span class="s1"> </span>밥을<span class="s1"> </span>적게<span class="s1"> </span>먹으니<span class="s1"> </span>정량보다<span class="s1"> </span>적게나갑니다<span class="s1">. </span>커플로<span class="s1"> </span>오신<span class="s1"> </span>분들은<span class="s1"> </span>남성분이<span class="s1"> </span>시키신<span class="s1"> </span>메뉴가<span class="s1"> </span>뭔지<span class="s1"> </span>말씀해주시면<span class="s1"> </span>밥을<span class="s1"> </span>더<span class="s1"> </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>드립니다<span class="s1">.’ </span>라는<span class="s1"> </span>친절한<span class="s1">(?) </span>안내문이<span class="s1"> </span>적힌<span class="s1"> </span>식당의<span class="s1"> </span>이야기<span class="s1">.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">그리고<span class="s1"> </span>급식소에서<span class="s1"> </span>겪은<span class="s1"> </span>한<span class="s1"> </span>여성의<span class="s1"> </span>일화<font face="Helvetica Neue">가 이어졌다.</font></p> <p class="p1">밥을<span class="s1"> </span>더<span class="s1"> </span>달라고<span class="s1"> </span>요구하자<span class="s1"> </span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>여성은<span class="s1"> </span>더<span class="s1"> </span>줘도<span class="s1"> </span>남기니<span class="s1"> </span>먹을만큼만<span class="s1"> </span>드세요<span class="s1">’</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>여자가<span class="s1"> </span>그렇게<span class="s1"> </span>먹어서<span class="s1"> </span>뭐하게요<span class="s1">?’</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>여자는<span class="s1"> </span>몸매관리를<span class="s1"> </span>해야해서<span class="s1"> </span>적게<span class="s1"> </span>먹잖아요<span class="s1">’</span></p> <p class="p1">라고<span class="s1"> </span>돌아오는<span class="s1"> </span>대답에<span class="s1"> </span>화가났다고<span class="s1"> </span>한다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">글을<span class="s1"> </span>읽으면서<span class="s1"> </span>나는<span class="s1"> ‘</span>와<span class="s1">, </span>요즘<span class="s1"> </span>시대에도<span class="s1"> </span>이렇게<span class="s1"> </span>말을<span class="s1"> </span>하는<span class="s1"> </span>사람이<span class="s1"> </span>있나<span class="s1">?’ </span>하고<span class="s1"> </span>의아해했지만<span class="s1"> </span>기사의<span class="s1"> </span>댓글은<span class="s1"> </span>말<span class="s1"> </span>그대로<span class="s1"> </span>엉망진창이었다<span class="s1">.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p1">차별이라는<span class="s1"> </span>단어<span class="s1">, </span>역차별이라는<span class="s1"> </span>단어부터<span class="s1"> </span>시작해<span class="s1"> </span>여자는<span class="s1"> </span>군대안가잖아<span class="s1">, </span>남자는<span class="s1"> </span>생리<span class="s1">, </span>임신<span class="s1"> </span>어쩌구<span class="s1"> </span>저쩌구<span class="s1">, </span>김치녀<span class="s1">, </span>한남<span class="s1"> </span>등등<span class="s1"> </span>인상을<span class="s1"> </span>찌푸리는<span class="s1"> </span>단어들의<span class="s1"> </span>나열<span class="s1">. </span>이들은<span class="s1"> </span>왜이렇게<span class="s1"> </span>서로<span class="s1"> </span>싸우는<span class="s1"> </span>걸까<span class="s1">? </span>뭐가<span class="s1"> </span>그들을<span class="s1"> </span>서로<span class="s1"> </span>혐오하게<span class="s1"> </span>만드는<span class="s1"> </span>걸까<span class="s1">?<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p1">여성<span class="s1"> = </span>적게<span class="s1"> </span>먹음<span class="s1"> </span></p> <p class="p1">이란<span class="s1"> </span>게<span class="s1"> </span>일치한다고<span class="s1"> </span>생각하는<span class="s1"> </span>걸까<span class="s1">?</span></p> <p class="p1">남성<span class="s1"> = </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹음<span class="s1"> </span></p> <p class="p1">이<span class="s1"> </span>명제는<span class="s1"> </span>성립할<span class="s1"> </span>수가<span class="s1"> </span>없다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">대다수의<span class="s1"> </span>여성들이<span class="s1"> </span>남성만큼<span class="s1"> </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹진<span class="s1"> </span>못할지언정<span class="s1">, </span>부족한<span class="s1"> </span>사람이<span class="s1"> </span>있다면<span class="s1"> </span>당당히<span class="s1"> </span>요구하고<span class="s1"> </span>그에<span class="s1"> </span>상응하는<span class="s1"> </span>걸<span class="s1"> </span>받을<span class="s1"> </span>수<span class="s1"> </span>있을텐데<span class="s1">……,</span></p> <p class="p1">물론<span class="s1"> </span>역차별도<span class="s1"> </span>있을<span class="s1"> </span>것이다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p1">남성중에<span class="s1"> </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹지<span class="s1"> </span>못하는<span class="s1"> </span>사람은<span class="s1"> </span>이런<span class="s1"> </span>말을<span class="s1"> </span>들을지도<span class="s1"> </span>모른다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>남자가<span class="s1"> </span>되서<span class="s1"> </span>그것도<span class="s1"> </span>못먹어<span class="s1">?’</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>남자라면<span class="s1"> </span>밥을<span class="s1"> </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹어야지<span class="s1">’</span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>남자는<span class="s1"> </span>덩치지<span class="s1">, </span>이게<span class="s1"> </span>뭐냐<span class="s1"> </span>비실해서<span class="s1">’<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p1">이<span class="s1"> </span>말과<span class="s1"> </span>위의<span class="s1"> </span>말이<span class="s1"> </span>뭐가<span class="s1"> </span>다른걸까<span class="s1">?</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">왜<span class="s1"> </span>우리는<span class="s1"> </span>스스로<span class="s1"> ‘</span>여자<span class="s1">’ </span>와<span class="s1"> ‘</span>남자<span class="s1">’ </span>라는<span class="s1"> </span>프레임에<span class="s1"> </span>본인을<span class="s1"> </span>맞춰<span class="s1"> </span>끼워살까<span class="s1">?<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p1">그<span class="s1"> </span>프레임을<span class="s1"> </span>벗어던지면<span class="s1"> </span>이<span class="s1"> </span>문제에선<span class="s1"> </span>그냥<span class="s1"> ‘</span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹는<span class="s1"> </span>사람<span class="s1">’ ‘</span>적게<span class="s1"> </span>먹는<span class="s1"> </span>사람<span class="s1">’ </span>일<span class="s1"> </span>뿐인데<span class="s1">, </span>사람마다<span class="s1"> </span>다른<span class="s1"> </span>것<span class="s1"> </span>뿐인데<span class="s1">, </span>그저<span class="s1"> </span>여자라는<span class="s1"> </span>이유로<span class="s1"> </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹으면<span class="s1"> </span>안되고<span class="s1"> </span>남자라는<span class="s1"> </span>이유로<span class="s1"> </span>많이<span class="s1"> </span>먹어야한다는<span class="s1"> </span>건<span class="s1"> </span>명백한<span class="s1"> </span>오류다<span class="s1">.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">군대와<span class="s1"> </span>임신<span class="s1">,</span>생리를<span class="s1"> </span>비교하는<span class="s1"> </span>문제도<span class="s1"> </span>그렇다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p1">본인들이<span class="s1"> </span>원치<span class="s1"> </span>않았을<span class="s1"> </span>지언정<span class="s1">, </span>제대로<span class="s1"> </span>된<span class="s1"> </span>페이도<span class="s1"> </span>지불받지<span class="s1"> </span>못한<span class="s1"> </span>채<span class="s1"> </span>나라<span class="s1"> </span>곳곳에<span class="s1"> ‘</span>군인<span class="s1">’</span>이라는<span class="s1"> </span>이름으로<span class="s1"> </span>살아가는<span class="s1"> </span>청년들에게<span class="s1"> </span>여자든<span class="s1"> </span>남자든<span class="s1"> </span>고마운<span class="s1"> </span>마음을<span class="s1"> </span>가지는<span class="s1"> </span>것이<span class="s1"> </span>당연하다<span class="s1">. </span>그리고<span class="s1"> </span>그들의<span class="s1"> </span>처우<span class="s1"> </span>개선을<span class="s1"> </span>위해<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>노력해야<span class="s1"> </span>할<span class="s1"> </span>문제이다<span class="s1">. </span>임신과<span class="s1"> </span>생리역시<span class="s1"> </span>여자들이<span class="s1"> </span>원치<span class="s1"> </span>않았을지언정<span class="s1">, </span>여자로<span class="s1"> </span>태어났기<span class="s1"> </span>때문에<span class="s1"> </span>짊어져야할<span class="s1"> </span>신체적<span class="s1"> </span>애로사항이기도<span class="s1"> </span>하다<span class="s1">. </span>새생명을<span class="s1"> </span>품기<span class="s1"> </span>위한<span class="s1"> </span>준비<span class="s1">, </span>그리고<span class="s1"> </span>태어나는<span class="s1"> </span>생명들을<span class="s1"> </span>안고<span class="s1"> </span>살아가는<span class="s1"> </span>어머니들<span class="s1">, </span>예비<span class="s1"> </span>어머니들에게<span class="s1"> </span>감사함을<span class="s1"> </span>느끼고<span class="s1"> </span>또한<span class="s1"> </span>그들의<span class="s1"> </span>불편사항을<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>도와가며<span class="s1"> </span>해결해야한다고<span class="s1"> </span>생각한다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">여성들의<span class="s1"> </span>생리대에서<span class="s1"> </span>발암물질이<span class="s1"> </span>발견된<span class="s1"> </span>사건<span class="s1">, </span>낙태죄를<span class="s1"> </span>여성에게만<span class="s1"> </span>묻는<span class="s1"> </span>여러<span class="s1"> </span>문제들</p> <p class="p1">남녀의<span class="s1"> </span>프레임을<span class="s1"> </span>벗어나<span class="s1"> </span>인간으로<span class="s1"> </span>태어난<span class="s1"> </span>이상<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>고민하고<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>헤쳐나가야할<span class="s1"> </span>문제인데<span class="s1"> </span>우리는<span class="s1"> </span>스스로<span class="s1"> </span>부류를<span class="s1"> </span>나뉘고<span class="s1"> </span>자신과<span class="s1"> </span>다른<span class="s1"> </span>부류를<span class="s1"> </span>혐오하며<span class="s1"> </span>그<span class="s1"> </span>행위를<span class="s1"> </span>통해<span class="s1"> </span>동족애를<span class="s1"> </span>느낀다<span class="s1">.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">이런<span class="s1"> </span>모습은<span class="s1"> </span>사실<span class="s1"> </span>어린아이들에게도<span class="s1"> </span>찾아볼<span class="s1"> </span>수<span class="s1"> </span>있는데<span class="s1">,<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">‘</span>난<span class="s1"> </span>얘가<span class="s1"> </span>싫어<span class="s1">, </span>그러니까<span class="s1"> </span>나랑만<span class="s1"> </span>놀아<span class="s1"> </span>얘랑<span class="s1"> </span>놀지마<span class="s1">’ </span>라고<span class="s1"> </span>말한<span class="s1"> </span>아이의<span class="s1"> </span>말대로하면<span class="s1"> </span>어느<span class="s1"> </span>선까지는<span class="s1"> </span>더욱<span class="s1"> </span>친밀감을<span class="s1"> </span>느끼고<span class="s1"> </span>더욱<span class="s1"> </span>친해진다<span class="s1">. </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>타인을<span class="s1"> </span>비난하는<span class="s1"> </span>죄책감은<span class="s1"> </span>군중심리에<span class="s1"> </span>묻히고<span class="s1"> </span>자기합리화로<span class="s1"> </span>이어지지<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">소위<span class="s1"> </span>말하는<span class="s1"> </span>꼴페미<span class="s1">,</span>일베<span class="s1">,</span>메갈들이<span class="s1"> </span>이런<span class="s1"> </span>부류가<span class="s1"> </span>아닐까<span class="s1">?</span></p> <p class="p1">자신들이<span class="s1"> </span>느끼는<span class="s1"> </span>열등감이란<span class="s1"> </span>감정을<span class="s1"> </span>남녀프레임을<span class="s1"> </span>씌워<span class="s1"> </span>색안경을<span class="s1"> </span>쓰고<span class="s1"> </span>서로를<span class="s1"> </span>바라보고<span class="s1"> </span>서로를<span class="s1"> </span>비난하고<span class="s1"> </span>혐오하며<span class="s1"> </span>사는<span class="s1"> </span>삶<span class="s1"> </span></p> <p class="p1">서로를<span class="s1"> </span>이해하기도<span class="s1"> </span>전에<span class="s1"> </span>포기하고<span class="s1"> </span>손가락질<span class="s1"> </span>하는<span class="s1"> </span>삶</p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1">나는<span class="s1"> </span>한남이라는<span class="s1"> </span>단어가<span class="s1"> </span>싫고<span class="s1">, </span>김치녀<span class="s1"> (</span>왜<span class="s1"> </span>맛있는<span class="s1"> </span>김치를<span class="s1">..) </span>라는<span class="s1"> </span>단어가<span class="s1"> </span>싫고<span class="s1">, </span>친분이<span class="s1"> </span>없는<span class="s1"> </span>사이에서<span class="s1"> </span>쓰는<span class="s1"> </span>모든<span class="s1"> </span>비하발언들이<span class="s1"> </span>싫다<span class="s1">.</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1"> </span>우리는<span class="s1"> </span>같은<span class="s1"> </span>영토에<span class="s1"> </span>살아가고<span class="s1"> </span>소수의<span class="s1"> </span>사람들도<span class="s1"> </span>안고<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>살아가는<span class="s1"> </span>민주주의<span class="s1"> </span>국가다<span class="s1">. </span></p> <p class="p1">이들의<span class="s1"> </span>열등감해소와<span class="s1"> </span>개선역시<span class="s1"> </span>우리<span class="s1"> </span>대한민국<span class="s1">’</span>사람<span class="s1">’</span>이라면<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>고민하고<span class="s1"> </span>함께<span class="s1"> </span>해결했으면<span class="s1"> </span>한다<span class="s1">. </span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">그러나 스스로 이렇게 말하면서도 이것이 꿈같은 이야기이고 갈 수 없는 이상향일지도 모른다는 생각에 허무하고 허탈하다. </span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">도대체 페미니즘이란 뭘까 </span></p> <p class="p1"><span class="s1">알려고 할수록 더 어렵다.</span></p> <p class="p2"><br></p>